It was not the sex that propelled M and I forward. it was 2 great dates, getting to know each other before and in between and something about that 3rd date where we just had the best time together that turned up the attraction level. The good in bed part was a bonus. And that has just gotten better as our connection has gotten stronger.
We want the same things. We are on the same page. I have been on the opposite pages on too many guys and it just never worked out well. And I did a lot of lying to myself, which I really regret.
So be honest with yourself. Maybe you really wouldn't mind getting into a relationship with her right away. If that's your truth, then that's your truth. Maybe you really just want to get some and that's ok too, but she's the wrong person for that.
And yeah, I bet having sex with another woman after your wife died would be a very emotional experience and the crying doesn't surprise me. I hope she was sensitive to him and I don't see how that is a sexual dealbreaker. Poor dude.
But the sex could not be all that hot the first time, but it could get a lot hotter with more connection.
