Wife in MLC, I think

[SteveLW]

One of the mistakes most LBSs make is to try to hold on to the WAS and continue to be their S, despite having been "fired" as the WAS's spouse.

You can start here. By not giving her a gift. (I agree with the others to get her a gift from the kids, but makes sure it is clear that it is FROM THE KIDS.) This will start to show her what it means to not be your spouse. Even if she gets you something. If she does I would refuse to accept it. "You've made it clear we are no longer a couple, I do not feel right accepting this gift from you." If she doesn't but brings up that you didn't get her a gift, that is the opportunity to say something like: "Since you've made it clear that we are no longer a couple, I didn't think it was appropriate to exchange gifts."

LB55, I am not going to lie. Your W seems very far gone. I normally say that sitches start at 50/50. Some have circumstances that make them have better odds. Some lower. Your odds here are not great. Maybe 25%. But you can maximize that by doubling down on DB tactics. I mean you need to really go dark (look up Last Resort Technique) and GAL, 180s, and detach.

And do not move out. When you consult with a lawyer, find out what the law says, but in most cases a spouse has no legal standing in booting the other from the marital home.