Finding the Balance then Tipping the Scale (TWO)

[lost8]

Hey Adam,

I have been keeping busy as well. Fortunately after I returned from Vegas my W was only home for 2 days until she was traveling for work and has been gone for 6 days. I am enjoying the time alone and it gave me a chance to get the house in order at least the areas that I live in since the W left it a drunken mess while I was in Vegas. She has called multiple nights saying how much she misses and talked about our upcoming anniversary which I have told her I am not recognizing. I am being cordial but am standing my ground, you become a WW for that much time and there is no longer a date that stands for anything.

I am diving into work heavily with a great opportunity for a promotion in the next month or two and have not had much GAL activities other than staying in touch with my brother across the country and one of the ladies that I met in Vegas. We were actually planning a getaway in January since she is out of state and wanted to meet up at a beach destination. Not sure about that one yet but my W had expressed an "open" marriage which I was totally against but since I have dropped the rope don't really care what she thinks now. Since she has no interest in D since she has a free ride at home I feel the only way for her to see what the real sitch is is to move on 100%. She doesn't want to talk about R or D or anything, just wants to talk about herself when she is drinking and it is exhausting and boring.

I continue to workout daily, talk to distant contacts and plans to meet up again, plan to meet up with some friends the next few weeks over the holiday break and actually whatever I feel like doing because I can. It is very refreshing to not have those feelings of worrying how my other half will react to my plans or actions....I just don't care what she thinks anymore.