Husband left for the second time - 8

[Joe2017]

Nicole I fully understand that in my situation it was easier because she ditched me. Even though I held on with everything I could. But I did get a D. That’s how I am able to stand on the OTHER side of D and see what it gave me. Nicole, it gave me PEACE.

Even after the divorce was final I would get messages from her like “You were never good enough for me.” and “Please let me know if you’re going to be at school picking up S17 because S15 is going to be there and I don’t want him to see you.” I mean... months after the divorce she sent me a message telling me that she is the reason I’m successful and it was her all along. The D did not stop her from harassing me.

But you know what? I already had my piece (peace?) of paper called a divorce decree. It was physical but helped me mentally. I was done and nothing she had to say even registered. I moved onto another chapter and I felt such relief that I didn’t feel obligated to her as a spouse.

Yes, I understand you have a child with the man. You will have to interact. But you will also have the FREEDOM to find another man. Without guilt. Without feeling like a cheater yourself.

Nicole, it’s time to move on with your life. You can’t wait for this guy. The more you hang on the more he’s going to keep you by a thread.

Do you like living like this? I know the answer is no. I know there is extreme sadness and there are days where the uncertainty can be unbearable. You don’t deserve to live like this. Your kid does not deserve to live like this. Do you remember when he said that he wished you had gotten an abortion?!!??! I do, and it disgusts me and makes me so sad for you.

We are all here for you.