Thanks Blu! You seem to consistently have the exact understanding of my point of view.
I too have no doubt she belongs with me...or I should say I have no doubt that SHE knows this. There is some kind of struggle going on with her regarding me. This isn't just a simple matter of her bansishing me to the friend zone and her being content with that. I sensed more, the times I was with her, that that was something she wanted for now. I didn't and still don't believe for a minute that she has ruled out R. I think it's a private struggle with her and that's why she's acting as she is. But yes, call it arrogance or whatever but I know she will come to her senses one day. Will it be too late for her by then? Who knows? I can't predict my future. What I can do is just keep doing my own thing and stay happy. If she comes around in time, great we'll chat about R possibilities...but if I become involved with someone else who may well come along and knock my socks off...then so be it. As long as I'm single I'll entertain her insofar as not outright ignoring her; but contact will be VERY limited as I previously described and there most certainly will not be another planned in person meeting. Yes she may come to my work and there's nothing I can do about that but if she does my workday will immediately become twice as busy LOL. Cordial, brief correspondence and that is it.
The ONLY thing that will change that is if she specifically comes out and says she wants to talk about R. Anything short of that the she's at the bottom of my totem pole...if she's even on it at all.

But yes, I do agree she knows I'm the one for her...I think she never really accomplished what she wanted in Florida...she never lived on her own off her own steam and that seems to be the schism she has regarding R...that she would have to give all that up. She once said when we were talking of R that if she got back with me she knows she'd be "all in 100%" and she wasn't sure she was ready for that.
That's just how I see it...she is definitely thinking about me a lot I am certain. But all that matters to me is that I'm happy either way right now...and I am. Mind reading her is an exercise in futility. I already have an opinion on this and I'm at peace with it all. What she does now she does. Godspeed to her.

Last edited by ItHurts; 12/18/18 04:46 AM.
ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14