R2C,

Thanks for the truth. While you are likely correct, at this point I only have secret phone behavior, no proof of OM. Plenty of reason to suspect it, but I also believe in innocent until guilty. I know this may be naive, but i don't want to incriminate her, and I haven't decided yet if an A is a deal breaker for me yet.

I will work out the parenting details once I get home in Jan. I have no ground to stand on right now from this distance. Once I am home, a 50/50 shouldn't be a problem. If it is, the L will help.

I have a sneaking suspicion that once I am back in the picture, she will demand I move out because I make her scared and uncomfortable, I will refuse, then will tell her she is welcome to move, and she likely will leave. Just a hunch.


Me40; W38; S12; D9
BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18
D Final 7/2020
Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.