Sorry you find yourself here. Great place for support.
No gifts.
Hard truth:
OM is taking care of this.
Right now Confidence is what you are to project to your W. You will be fine no matter what happens.
I would set bondaries around parenting. 50/50. Week on week off. Alternating hodiays etc If your job gets in the way of your ability to parent, get a L to argue for your rights. as close to 50/50 as you can.
Thanks for your service.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712