Help Please! 6

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T, I said this 6 weeks ago but I think it still applies:

T, I'm in the school of thought that something does not seem right here. Your W's complete lack of interest in ANY kind of physical touching is very troubling. You are in MC, the C told both of you to pursue physical touches, you are and she is not. We're not talking about sex here, the MC said just to TOUCH each other for crying out loud! Is she so repulsed by you that she can't even bring herself to hold your hand or touch your hand while driving? This is a big red flag to me that your W is not all-in on reconciling, and I don't think it will improve with time. Personally I think you still have a full-blown WAS on your hands, probably actively planning BD 2.0 with an announcement that "I tried everything and it just didn't work." Any advice I give you is going to run counter to what your MC is telling you, but I really think you should go back to DB'ing. Pull back, give her time and space, stop touching her, cut way back on dating and such. If she asks why you're doing this (and I'm sure she will) just say YOU need some time and space to think things over.

So 6 more weeks have passed and you are still stuck in the exact same place. I wish you would get fed up, and maybe a little angry, and just walk away from the whole mess. Because THEN you would detach, and THEN she would see what she's missing. I know some of the others here think you have a chance if you are patient but I absolutely do not share their optimism.

Yep, I remember this almost word for word. The big mistake she is making is, she says it's so 'awkward' because it's been so long. But, the longer she goes without showing much of anything, the worse it gets.

That being said, she came home from work today, walked over, and gave me a peck on the lips. This is something MC recommended, but hasn't been happening much. I think W realizes how my patience is wearing very thin. Whether she cares or not is a different story

I'd be a real dick to do or say anything drastic days before Christmas (although she BD'd me a week before my birthday). But come January, if nothing changes, I'll be about done