Put it back on her, tell her "no" and leave it at that
If you decide you do not want the dog, tell her:
"W, I do not want the dog. Please consider the kids wishes before you make a decision."
W will still be selfish, but you can still be a parent and advocate for what your children want. She how I carefully worded the statement above. It is not controlling. It is not trying to guilt her. Indirectly stating that you will be hurting our children buy getting rid of the dog.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
