I had a choice of just assuming OM or finding proof. Either way, my response was the same. One way protected me emotionally. Would you want me to spy on your W and OM and send you videos you do not want to see and that you can't get out of your head?
You will continually get more confirmation as time goes on. I believe you are past the point where exposing the affair may have helped. During this time, detaching is key. Put your DBing skills on overdrive.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712