So Friday afternoon came with and in a span of 45 minutes 2 major bombs dropped from W and her attorney in what I feel is their last grasp to rattle my cage in attempting to get full custody of s.
First was an email from S teacher that was sent to both w and I. S had an incident at school where he got in trouble. As a result of his actions he was required to fill out a “think sheet” about his actions. After filling out, teacher noticed that S wrote statements such as “I want to die”...”I’m no good”....”I hate myself” etc. This triggered me to the core. I responded to teacher requesting a meeting on Monday and demanded a social worker be present. I then attempted to call W to discuss and she yet again failed to engage in a convo over phone. Reverted to just texting...still refusing to acknowledge her choices are a huge reason for S troubles. S has been responsive and happy while with me...and says he wants to be with me all the time. I fear he is walking on the eggshells I did the last 3 years while with w. I plan to head this issue straight forward but know I need to act in a calm demeanor and not cast blame to wife...as I feel this could be attempt by wife to get full custody. I went over to My mentors house to discuss as he was experienced in child therapy.
While at mentors, I then get an email from my attorney. W has filed a motion in attempting to have me removed from marital home and all decisions as to the sale of our house fall upon w....the week before Christmas. House has been on market coming in at 180 days, but market has slowed due to increased interest rates and the season. I have maintained a list price at what we purchased home for 5 yrs back to maximize the asset with minimum loss. We get steady traffic but no offers yet. When I got termed 3 months ago, I worked an agreement with mortgage company on modified payments while I search for a new job...essentially a reverse mortgage where outstanding payments get attached to end of loan...thus reducing equity. This was a last resort as w refused to allow me to have a couple tenants rent out rooms which would have alleviated mortgage pressure as w left me with responsibility of all payments and refused to help support when she left.
I believe this is an attempt to claim I can’t provide a stable home for S so they will request to modify child custody. At time of BD, w gave me full authority as to the sale and marketing of home.
Both of these happened just before 5 on Friday..so I haven’t discussed with my attorney. Luckily I’ve kept records of correspondence from w where she was agreeable on pricing strategy. I don’t believe any judge would rule in her favor...forcing me out of the house that she elected to leave...but it’s a concern for sure. Just more needless legal fees going to attorneys.
Any thoughts from board?
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
