Surrendering to grace...

[kiro]

have you suggested IC?

I once did that and my W said she already did and the IC confirmed that I had abused her emotionally lol :), which was one her numerous ways to blame me since BD. Just saying that if they’re not ready they’ll choose an IC only to confirm their story and will disregard anything else that could contradict it.

Once when she told me that I had abused her emotionally justifying it by trivial meaningless examples, I responded that she was the one who had abused me by her emotional coldness and indifference. She was totally taken by surprise and I could see the shock on her face . She had a moment of clarity before going back to her story.