My last replies are partly due to my failings to heal totally from my own sitch. As Steve said, I think that there is usually some truth in what I wrote previously that you should take into account. But overall I think you are doing great and handling your sitch with great courage, wisdom and patience. I am learning from your wisdom and it’s helping me overcome the last piece of my healing, which is forgiving.
IMO, the answer to your questions is that you are taking some risk and choosing the more difficult path. It is easier to give up and move on. What you are doing may extend your healing process, but it is worth it as long as you feel it’s the right thing to do. Just make sure you protect yourself, financially, health-wise and emotionally.
I truly believe that an LBS has to take time before moving on to be at peace with himself knowing he did what he could.
Me:49 XW:41, M:18 years, Kids: S18,S14 BD:JULY 2017, W moved out: DEC 2017 Filed for D: APR 2019, D Final: JULY 2019
