Yesterday I went Christmas shopping. I ended up buying myself a new comforter set for my bed in MBR.
WW saw this and went on a tirade about finances. Putting me down, saying I can't afford the Bill's, I cant budget, I cant manage my finances and I'm frivolous. I repeated to her several times "I will not speak with you when you are being hateful and I will not allow you to put me down".
WW continued and followed me into MBR trying to half talk about Christmas gifts and complaining that I dont just hand her my full check so she can do whatever. I actually have all of the accounts and passwords so I'm paying exactly half of everything that is under my name or her name. I refuse to pay for stuff I dont want or need, such as cable TV, wifi, the house cleaners, my WWs car (her work gives her a stipend for her car) the car my WW bought D19 under her name that she never spoke with me about before doing etc.
WW would not relent. WW would not leave me alone. I was trying to get ready so I could leave. WW kept pushing and unfortunately I let my emotions get the best of me. I looked her right in the eyes and said "I hate thos person who you have become, I deserve so much better, I cannot wait to get away from you and find someone who meets my standards"
WWs brain came to a screaming halt mode sentence and she just stopped talking and stood there with her .outhouses open.
The expression on her face was just complete shock and disbelief. WW finally blundered out "well go ahead and move out then". I just said "I will live in my house until we are no longer married, please get out of my room now as I will not tolerate your continued disrespect!"
WW kept bumbling that this was her house, and her room still and blah blah blah as she finally left my room.
In the 21 years we have been together we have had many arguments. If you listen to hip hop, listen to Lil Peeps track called Aweful Things. The track is about peep being betrayed and the aweful actions and treatment from his WS making it so much easier to drop the rope, in so many words. I put that song on my bluetooth speaker immediately.
WWs actions and behavior are making it much easier to detach and look forward to getting the h3ll away from her.
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019