FS, I wonder if it's not so much that "every interaction either brings us closer together or pulls us further apart," but that we live out our best version of ourselves, regardless? Doing so may bring you closer, may pull you apart, or may have no effect whatsoever. That choice is yours and that of your H's.
In my sitch, at least for now, the corollary of choosing the best version of myself entails waiting for W, even as I move on with my life's work. My choice to wait may change over time. And W's understanding of the best version of herself may also change in time.
