When your wife rants, listen and then say "I'm sorry you feel that way". Do not argue w/her. About the furniture that you took. She can move things around so that there are no "holes" where furniture was. She's upset and feelings guilt and shame because she sees the gaps where things once were. As for the mount for the TV, I wouldn't remove it. She is in rare form and wants to rant about everything. Just listen, validate how she feels at the moment and then let it go. It's all about her and what she is realizing about what life will be like.
They do not understand divorce. They think everything will remain the same, i.e., furniture will remain and nothing moved, money coming in and yes, us still taking care of and or fixing things for them. They do not realize that divorce means splitting up belongings and learning how to deal w/reality and living on their own.
Keep the focus on the kids and on yourself. She's not a happy person and no matter what you say or do, it will never be enough. Accept that you can't fix her because you didn't break her....she has to fix herself.
Dig deeper for patience.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
