I remember having to always conform to the crises with XH to keep peace here in our home I would not fight with him I learned to validate his choices I overlooked everything inappropriate he did I kelt the kids safe at all times, then ages 5 and 11 I knew I could not win I was up against a form of mental illness caused by unresolved childhood issues Called MLC I thanked him for his small contributions and focused on any good thing he did- which was very few things at that time
I was lucky because he moved out and I kept the home and full custody of the kids; and that was exactly what I wanted
I would encourage you to continue on your path and be open to whatever thoughts and ideas you think are most useful for your situation right now
There are no winners here in MLC. The crises is an opportunity for us to grow and transform into better beings If we are conscious, our kids will also turn out better for it and with less childhood stuff they will have to work through-
Our Stability and compassion and forgiveness are critical for our childrens growth and development Set boundries with MLCer But with the kids--become their rock of stability they can count on-
hang in there-You are doing good this is a tough road-
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
