DB again... too late or last strike

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Ginger thanks i agree - codependent. I will bring this up at my Ic tomorrow. The only time I feel like she doesn’t influence me is when I focus on the break up. Moving on without her. Mark Manson has a good article about getting dumped. And every time you think of your ex you say out loud weakness leaving the body. I was doing that a week or two ago.

Yes the dynamic is unhealthy I have to drop the rope / cut the cord. Still being married and having a daughter the connection is there. I have a feeling she’s going to pursue sex in the next week or two. Say no unless you’re ready to recommit to working on our relationship and marriage. No sex no discussion. She will view this is an ultimatum and control. Or I could just have the great sex then continue NC although I will obliviously be reattached. Better we have sex than have sex with others?

Whether I want the sex or lot maybe better to just be unavailable. And continue to focus on me.

In reality she’s so difficult and even though there has been some progress will I lead my best life with this woman? Hard to say yes but there is family and if we were less dependent I should be able to lead my best life with or without her.

Thanks for all your time!