So, things are moving forward. Or should I say I’m moving forward and he continues to be a total flake.
House has been valued. Will go on market January. H told valuer that he would ask a local builder to assess some damp in 1 room. 6 weeks ago. Done nothing. I sent a “have you sorted a builder yet” text 4 days ago. No response. The old me would have sent several more by now asking why he’s ignoring this when it’s him that wants out.....etc etc. But now now. Just add it to his list of patheticness.
6 weeks ago agreed to sort loft, garage, prepare the house for sale. Not been near nor made any contact. So after Christmas the boys and I will do it.
Have seen the IFA. Much better position than I thought even if I don’t get financial settlement I hope to. Started to look at properties to buy. Exciting.
Approached a local firm of solicitors. Explained the situation. They were a bit nervous as they do some business with him and don’t want it To be awkward. I agreed that they should contact him and say that they had been approached by me and guage his reaction. Took 3 days for him to answer his phone to them and now he wants a few days ‘ to consider his position’. They get until tomorrow then I go out of town. Silly silly man. There is a world of difference between the approach of a big city firm and a local specialist.
Final note. He went to visit grandson and DIL. Son refused to be there. Spent 90 minutes talking about himself and in particular how he was looking forward to Xmas as last Xmas day was so miserable. She said thanks,that’s really nice to hear: we hosted Xmas here in our new house. He’d forgotten that he said. He just likes to make his narrative fit his story. I’m not sure who he feels he needs to convince. His family know what he is.
Oh well onward and upward. None of the problems that he creates are going to knock me off my journey, they all have solutions.
