Man, I do well detaching when I don't interact with XW, but the flood of emotions come roaring back when I'm around her. I didn't have a chance at stopping the D anyways, so I'm probably fortunate that we've been apart during this process. She did show emotion for just the second time since BD. She cried while telling me how I failed the marriage. Apparently, she played no part (she is overbearing and a bit self-centered, but I could deal with that). We had a disagreement over finances that spilled into her going off on a tangent. I must say that much of what she said was true (we did lose connectedness and I was sleepwalking through our marriage). Where I failed, it wasn't intentional. Just a rut that I got into. She didn't think I deserved even a chance at reconciliation, so I must move on. I forgive myself, but I also know to not make the same mistakes in my next relationship.
