Re: MY TRAGIC WAW STORY PART XIII

[ItHurts]

Well I'd have to give it some thought to take it so far as to just outright ignore her. That, to me would make me feel like I'm pouting over her. A simple 3 or 4-word reply from now on will suffice. This way I don't look like I'm "mad" and "ignoring" her... instead a blurb reply would show class yet send the message that I'm not your buddy ol' pal...I'm an acquaintance with whom you happened to spend a large chunk of your life with.
I equate it to a wrong number caller. If someone calls your house and it's a wrong number...and you just slam the phone down, that caller is going to see that you are mad and they got an emotional rise out of you. Instead you say "sorry, wrong number" and hang up. You don't want to chitchat and and break bread with the caller, your just showing them human respect. The latter is the way that appeals to me more...it just seems the stronger approach. "Ignoring" her, which is essentially what I'd be doing by replying, seems juvenile...like in "mad" at her. I'd prefer to not give her that pleasure. Instead I want to show her I am fully capable of communicating with her but at the same time project my lack of desire to engage her. That better relays how I really feel...I'm not emotionally vested where I feel like I need to ignore her but I also will not enage her. Eventually she'll either go away or decide she doesn't like just four-word answers and she needs more from me...except this time she knows the prices on my menu...

You want me to take you to dinner? Then your clothes better be off within 10 minutes of getting back to your place.

You want me to come help you dispose of a dead bird? Then I'd better get dinner made for me and a few really nice kisses.

You want me to go see a movie with you? Refer to the first requirement above.

That's it. I don't want to DB her again in that respect by going cold. I want to go the way that best reflects how I really feel regarding her...and that is I could care less if another year goes by before I hear from her again. I merely want her...I most definitely don't need her however. I don't care enough. At this point, in my eyes, and this may be a bit pig-headed to say...but she's an idiot for letting me go a second time. She's not getting the satisfaction of looking at her phone three days after she sent me a text and still hadn't gotten a reply from me and saying to herself...yeah he's so hung up on me that he can't bear to talk to me. SCREW THAT! I could talk to her every damned day and it doesn't ohase me. She'd get one common courtesy reply and that...is...it. I'm in control here and she's not going to have one reason to think otherwise. She could go get married tomorrow and I honestly would be fine with it. The reason for this confidence in myself? Because I will always knew the day WILL come where she will finally realize she belonged with me. I know it. So I don't care. I can reply to her and simultaneously make it clear I'm replying our of sheer courtesy and nothing more.
Just like the advice that you should never beg a woman to stay with you or allow her to know the power she has over you. Except in my case she doesn't have any power over me or any bearing on my life how...and I'll be damned if I'm going to allow her to think that. I guess WAW isn't the primary focus of anything in my life...so I'm indifferent to how long she stays away and what she does with her lovelife. So I'm thinking more REAL replies from me that reflect my reality as it relates to her, however limited that is... replies sort of like this...


Examples:

WAW: "Hey how've you been? Wanted to ask you how to install an air stone in my Betta tank. You were always good with that fishtank stuff. I think the fish will like the bubbles.
ME: I'm great, easier to Google it.

WAW: "Hey the fish you bought me died! Do I flush it?"
ME: Condolences, that or bury it.

WAW: "Watcha up to this weekend?"
ME: Work and plans

Of course that would be the only reply from me. Even if she texts back she will then get nothing. That way she can't say "oh he's ignoring me" yet I will have terminated the conversation. And this is all real because I just don't want to deal with her at any length unless she wants R. That's it...that's the extent of my interest in her...whether she likes it or not
If she wants me...she will have me on my terms, not hers.

So that's where I'm at. She's now joined her parents on vacation for their last week of vacation as she was planning so I'm sure I won't hear from this week anyway.
She may have already gotten the message when I replied to her lengthy text with "No prob take care."
She never replied back. That's the style of communication with her that I want. Until she comes at me aggressively and direct stating specifically that she wants to talk about reconciliation...I'm not interested in engaging her.