Gordie 22 eight months after she dropped the D

[Gordie]

DNJ (and Andrew)

Thanks for checking in on me

Your reframing of my status is helpful

This really is going to take some time

I do not control the pace and timing

And you are right that I had two plus years of high drama

And that I should enjoy less drama in my life

So let me offer gratitude on some positives



W said thank you to me for helping her with something

W stood next to me and dried the dishes I was washing

W accepted an invitation to a party on behalf of the two of us

These are all new behaviors



So it is these small and drama free interactions I am appreciating

When I said she is not ready to do the work

I meant the work of reconciliation that MWD describes

We still have never really talked about everything that happened