Originally Posted by pain18
once I know the four non-negotiables.


So this is my concern. You do not even know what YOUR non-negotiables are. Or at least are not able to verbalize them. This is a thinking exercise. Is it about how you want to be treated. It is about how you respond to being treating this way.
4 was just a number I picked.


You do not need to state these to her. You do it in your actions.

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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