I know this is hard and I am not discounting that and I know it is easy for me to say as an outsider. The reality that gets lost by newcomers is there is no magic fix. You could DB perfectly and there is no guarantee she stops the affair and wants to reconcile. DB just gives you the best chance to save yourself and that in-turn may save your marriage. At some point Hurt you have to forget about DB and dig down deep and ask yourself why you feel you deserved to be treated this way. I hate to say this but you have probably the most disrespectful W I have seen in 4 years on this board. I literally get angry when I read your posts. You are a good man and you do not deserve the treatment you are getting from your wife. Only you can decide what you are willing to tolerate. If you can't do it for yourself then do it for your children. Show them how a man reacts to adversity. You will survive this and be fine on your own.
