I want to have this conversation, but I feel like I cannot say that without making it sound like an ultimatum. I remember early on when I started this was to back off the ultimatum talk. I just don't know when the "right" time would be.
The times we have talked about this directly, I have told her simply "I refuse to live like this." I was vague and should have been more specific, but everytime I venture talk into that realm, the conversation goes sideways, she listens to me but does not really register the emotions behind what I am saying. She just says "THank you for sharing." and that's it. The last time we had this talk was 8 weeks ago.
I will copy and paste that with my responses and refer back to that consistently once I know the four non-negotiables.
Sandi,
We had a major fight the day before when I told her that we'll be ok and things will work out. She fired back saying the romance was over. I returned fire and told her not to come home that night and to pick up D4 the next morning to take her to school. That afternoon we agreed to see less of each other.
