13 years and 2 kids pt. 3.

[Hurt213]

Thank you for the response LH,

I see how I come off with a statement and then I basically excuse that statement, and that looks weak.

I think I addressed something that had been boiling in me. The signs I had been noticing in my kids because of her going and coming while they are awake, and I adressed that concern. Now that I have, I will shut up. I and the kids will have a great weekend. We will decorate the house, bake cookies, go do christmas activities outside, and decorate the christmas tree.

I will be applying myself towards a thought that says that WW is no longer who she was, and therefore I shouldn't try to hold on to that idea, that she will turn around and magically be that person again. I need to free myself so me and the kids can move on. WW belongs in the past, we are in the present, we need to move towards the future, and maybe, just maybe my wife is there and a new journey can sow its seeds, and maybe the present WW will never ever work with herself, and then she is not a part of me and the kids future plans (under my roof that is).

So..
- Not answering anything not related to kids, and I will wait with replies and not answer phone calls immediately.
- I will be mysterious, not letting her in on what I am up to.
- I will give her space and time to do what she pleases - you asked me; do you then allow her to be with OM? <-- I don't but honestly, I do since its none of my business. She does what she thinks is right, and if it turns out to be wrong, then wrong it is - bottom line is, nobody can tell her if it is right or wrong, she needs to experience that herself given where she is in her mental state at this point.
- I will go out and try new things.
- I will embrace life and think of this as a new opportunity to reinvent myself, and do things I enjoy.
- I will be there for my kids and be the light and a rock for them.
- I will answer her questions regarding the kids but in short sentences, and I won't initiate conversation.
- I will act content happy and cheerful about my life and the kids, but nothing about her <-- I will fake this till I make it.