Whirlwind of Hurt 6

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She texts and she calls because she's thinking about you TF but when you respond, then she gets a reprieve and feels better about things and you just feel more awful. the good guy in you wants her to feel better and we all get that but when she feels better then she is in a state in which she doesn't have to process what she's doing. You make her hang there and wonder, then she starts thinking more and more about what she has done. This is a tough time I think if you get a chance to spend time with her and the kids at Christmas you should do it. You can repair that damage after Christmas. If you do it be happy and respectful and give your kids lots of love and hugs. Do it for the kids and yourself. But up to that point try and detach and work on yourself. Right after Christmas really pull back for a while and make a strong effort to work on yourself and help your kids. As for the dog just say I don't know and leave it at that for a while. She may change her mind. tough times. Christmas 2003 I really did not do well. I spent the entire Christmas with my wife housesitting for another family and spent Christmas and New Years at her sister's house with her whole family. I bought her diamond earrings and a bunch of other gifts and was happy go lucky. Only to get home and she smugly said I think divorce is inevitable. She offered to give me the earrings back and I took them back and I think she expected me to just to let her keep them. I pulled back worked on myself and paid her only what I owed her and told her to do the paperwork for the divorce. Told her it wasn't what I wanted but I supported her decision. 3 months later I was moving back in and she never even started that paperwork.