To answer your other question L........there is absolutely no way I have anything. I was just counting and I think I have only been with 6 women my entire life and 1 of those was for 17 years. I still have not had sex with anyone since my X and I D'd and while I did have the one interaction with HG the chance of me contracting something at that time is so very highly unlikely based on everything I have read it is very rare to acquire HSV2 orally. HSV1 yes and really that is very common.
If I have anything it has never shown itself down south or in my mouth and from everything I have read the first outbreak occurs with in 2 weeks of being exposed.
However if I do have something I guess I just move forward and deal with it. Just like I had to deal with getting D'd. Truthfully getting tested is probably the responsible thing to do so your partner has piece of mind.
She told me that she would show me her test and/or get re-tested as well if I wanted her to.
