It is a hard thing to juggle, Nitaf, isn't it? Not pursuing, but showing a lot of attention is that is what their major complaint was about the marraige.
Mind you, I'm not recommending this to you, but looking back, I think the critical changes started for us when I did a LRT. I had hit a breaking point and told him that I was done and wanted to end the relationship rather than continue in limbo.
I think that shook him up enough to start reading books, wanting to go to marraige counseling, and put his toes back in the water.
I, on the other hand started to be much more detached, not being totally available, and even adding some mystery. My being all obsessed, anxious & panicky definatley had made him feel pressured. It had also made him feel totally in control and take me a bit for granted.
We were separated for 9 months. It felt like 5 years.
