you can't control whether she wants to rebuilds it with you or not. The point is that you may be starting over with or without her but you have to get to that point in your head and heart. Of course you want to build a new one but that is better than watching the old tower teeter and fear it collapsing and what your next move is while life around you moves on. The idea is the next time regardless you will build the tower and use some glue so it doesn't fall as easily and it might be with her but you will have learned from the past. You won't get there unless you completely drop the rope.

I've been there and I felt like I was going crazy, I have wasted the last 7 months of my life not just mine but part of my kids as well and I won't do it anymore.

Last edited by lost8; 12/14/18 02:02 PM.
H-50
W-48
T-19
M -18
S23, S14
BD - 5/9/2018
OM discovered 5/10/2018

In house sep - 8/18/2018
Rope drop 2/15/2019
R'ing since 3/15/2019