[quote=paco123]Right now, I feel overwhelmed by my emotional, physical, and spiritual love for W.

This is what we call the LBS' fog. As someone said recently (I think it was AS), the WAS' fog is that everything in the MR has been awful, terrible, horrendous. The LBS's fog is that everything was wonderful, terrific, perfect.

paco, if you step back and look ask yourself how happy you really were pre-BD. It very well could be that you are over glamorizing your MR pre-BD. And that deep down you weren't really all that happy. Some of that in my case was because I was focused on the wrong things. But a lot of it is was because of problems out of my control in the MR. In hindsight, if my W had left, I would have been fine. And might have been able to easier find my own happiness.

If LBSs could let go for 5 minutes they might see that the path forward without their spouse really is all that terrible.

Last edited by Steve85; 12/14/18 01:59 PM.
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M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018