Hope for the best, prepare for the worst! And you're right, some things are out of our control.
She's probably getting all dolled up just to get you back on the hook. She is struggling man, wondering why you aren't right where she wants you. Let her live with those feelings and wonder why she cares so much about you.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.