Pain, What are your long term plans for the house? I am also in an IHS and I have reminded W every time she reassures me that she wants out where the front door is and that she is free to live where she pleases. Guess what, she refuses to budge and she has every right to do so. So if your W does the same what are your plans for the house once D is finalized down the road? I cannot afford to buy my W out of the house, realistically she can't either unless her parents gave her the money (I suspect they will). Either way I eventually need to move. I recognize, as do you I feel, that I can't live in this toxic environment of an IHS. Everyone tells me that I should not leave the house and I get that but I am also starting to realize that I may have no choice if I am to protect my mental health. Just something to think about.
Ryan, we're no longer IHS. She is out when I am there with the exception of one day. And she is usually asleep or in her bedroom when I am done GAL.
What I do know is that I am not going to leave the house that I worked my tail off for. She wants out of this marriage, she can get out of the house. But she does not want that. She wants the best of both worlds. I just need to work on taking that option away. Or hope that some other miracle occurs.
I do recognize that I will need to make a decision soon to protect my sanity as well. But considering the circumstances and where I am not versus where I was 5 months ago, I am in a better place mentally.
And neither of us want a D...right now. Who is going to blink first? Should I preempt?
