I am tempted to just tell to get out of the house, but I cannot express that without sounding angry.
Pain, What are your long term plans for the house? I am also in an IHS and I have reminded W every time she reassures me that she wants out where the front door is and that she is free to live where she pleases. Guess what, she refuses to budge and she has every right to do so. So if your W does the same what are your plans for the house once D is finalized down the road? I cannot afford to buy my W out of the house, realistically she can't either unless her parents gave her the money (I suspect they will). Either way I eventually need to move. I recognize, as do you I feel, that I can't live in this toxic environment of an IHS. Everyone tells me that I should not leave the house and I get that but I am also starting to realize that I may have no choice if I am to protect my mental health. Just something to think about.
