Sandi - perfect thank you. I understand that completely and the respect and attraction relationship is huge. At least for a healthy attraction / relationship. I have not been responding and communicating only about D4. I can sense her interest increasing but interest is not enough. I’m not settling for any more crumbs she can be all in and work on herself to deserve to be my wife or I will go on to a better life with or without her. I am slowly detaching. The compulsion is still there but I’m asking here instead of responding. Also as I do this things are building in my life. I will not allow her or any woman hold me back from reaching my potential.
Hallelujah!!!
Just remember to let go of any anger you have towards her too so that you can be happy today, tomorrow, and the next day.
She mentioned "not wanting to pester you" so that you could respond saying "Oh W it's OK I love you and will always be here for you b/c you are special to me. You can't possibly pester me!". And then she knows she has you on the hook again and you are back to square one.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
