Either I am missing something or this is a huge mess. I am reading that "things in general are OK," that you attended a wedding together and that there are make-out sessions happening. That part I am sure of.
Where is the part where she ended her affair, provided proof of that, is offering transparency, is remorseful for her part in the breakdown of the M, AND where she is saying that she is recommitted to making this work??? Did I miss this somewhere along the way or did none of this actually happen???
Have you read anything that Sandi posts about WWs and their lack of respect for their H? Have you read anything about how to have boundaries and demand respect from other people??? Do you have any respect for yourself? (I am honestly asking)
Seriously, what is going on here?
Because you know what it looks like from this side of the screen? It looks like you have no self worth, no respect from your WW, and you are taking any crumb she throws. You are also teaching her how to treat you (which is to walk all over you). You are also allowing her to blame you for the problems in the M when she is the one HAVING AN AFFAIR!
Look, everyone here has messed up. None of us are perfect and we all contributed to our M problems. ALL OF US HAVE. But allowing her to walk all over you, throw crumbs when she feels like it, and then participating in counseling (where you take responsibility) does you no good, while she is HAVING AN AFFAIR. That is written all over this board and in every thread on here.
Wow. I got myself worked up just writing that. I am not even sure what else to say except, I know that you know this because I have seen you give very good advice to other people. You just refuse to see it in your own sitch. The one that matters most.
I think you need so start over before it's too late. Read all the advice about WW and the rules and actually start applying them if you want to save your M at all.
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
