Hoosjim's 16th. Looks like we're piecing, folks.

[hoosjim]

You missed my point, which was how it made you feel when she stayed for drinks.

No matter how much logic you might apply to your situation with the bartender, what matters is how it makes your W feel.

Oh, no, just to clarify, i did get that, and, as i said above, i do understand how that feels.

And its important in our case because i know in the distant past... and even sometimes now... she suffers from confidence issues and has worried about me and other women (even though there was never anything to worry about.) That's something she had actually discussed with IC/MC-- her own feelings of inadequacy and lack of confidence in her and in our relationship. At least some of that has been remedied but still work to do for us, as always. Part of that is commnication and part of it, as you and others rightfully point out in this case, is respect and putting one's mate first and making sure they know they are being put first.

I totally get what you are saying. But the thing with the doctor and, yes, the affair even though it is further in the rear view mirror is still a sore point with me. I don't like things i am doing being compared to that. I know that's not what you were doing, you were comparing our respective feelings. But... like i said.. sore/sensitive point with me. I need to get over that.