The phenomenon that is selective memory is a real thing. When someone can convince themselves that the destructive things they are doing are right and justified, as many WSs do, it isn't that far of a leap to think that that latter they can also convince themselves that those destructive actions were actually perpetrated by someone else entirely! Humans have a big capacity to white-wash things ("I never did that!" "What I didn't isn't as bad as so-and-so is doing (even if it is the exact same thing!)."
So yes, I can believe that some WSs can "forget" what they did. My WW, when she was starting to comeback expressed remorse. But guess what, I have no doubt that the next time someone close to us starts behaving the same way with their spouse, she will be one of the most outspoken against their actions. It is kind of like reformed smokers. I used to smoke ( 25+ years ago) and now I am the most intolerant of other people's smoking of anyone I know.
Remorse is important related to moving to R. But don't be surprised if he forgets a lot of what he has done (assuming he comes back to the MR).
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
