You pursued and pressured. She capitulated out of being nice. She sensed you getting too comfortable and slapped you back into reality.
The trip was a terrible idea. As was all of your follow-up activities. You gave up long-term success potential for short-term wanting to feel better about things.
Look, we've all been through it. We get the near-panic attacks at being apart. You feel like if you could just see her then you could feel so much better. And temporarily that does work. But it is like Jenga. Every time you force her to see you you are pulling another piece of the Jenga tower out. Do that too much and it will eventually collapse. The idea is to NOT pull any pieces out (stop pursuing and pressuring) and then eventually she might be interested enough in saving things to start working with you to put pieces back.
Ring is a very fragile. The more damage you do now (remove too many pieces of the Jenga tower) the more likely it will all collapse when you start trying to put pieces back into the tower. You want that tower as solid as possible prior to Ring. And the only way to do that is to stop pulling pieces out now: give her the time and space she has requested!!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
