Had S this past weekend and it was great. Friday we went to an area park that has an incredible lights display and walked around then went to a Mexican restaurant. Saturday got house prepared for S birthday party and we went to an arboritem where they had a gnome village and other light displays. S had a blast. On Sunday we went to S best friend birthday party at a Sealife exhibit...followed by rushing back to the house in time for my family and several of S cousins and extended cousins to come over. Baked 3 NY style pizzas and had an ice cream cake. S got an arsenal of nerf guns for his birthday and my house became a war zone after the kids got to playing. It was the happiest I’ve seen S since BD occurred...and said it was his best birthday ever. (I was so happy to see him happy again)
Capped off S special weekend by taking him to a birthday breakfast early Monday before school. We each had chocolate pancakes. S asked if he could stay with me instead over going to W house...I just said that wasn’t possible and I bet W had special plans for his birthday and said I would see him at his Xmas recital the following day.
Teusday evening S had his school Xmas recital. I took my mom and we arrived 30 minutes early to get good seats. We got front row seats as gymnasium filled up fast. My mom asked if we should save a space for W..I said no. W and FIL showed up rather late and to sit in bleachers. Show was cute and S came up to me and my mom after show first and gave us each a giant kiss. He was so excited to see us and hardly made an effort to find W. As we exited I had a brief interaction with W and FIL...just nodded and said hello. W and FIL hadn’t seen my mom in 9 months and acted as fake as if they had an interest in her. (She had her knee replaced 3 weeks ago and she was a bit perturbed w hadn’t reached out once to see how she was doing). My mom was disgusted...I just said to not be mindful to any of it...true colors have shown up.
Yesterday I get an email from W regarding a birthday party she is planning for S at an inside event place for kids detailing expenses that she wants me to pay for, etc. I had told her several weeks ago I wouldn’t be doing parties together...she apparently didn’t get the message. She selfishly planned this during her weekend and didn’t give me any details until now. I have already made plans and won’t break them. I have informed S and he is okay with me not going. I guess I’ll let w realize that when I don’t show up....and won’t be paying for. I know this may seem hardline to some...but I’m fully separating church and state with regards to birthdays and holidays. W is also continuing to try to manipulate our holiday schedule to where she gets S during the key moments of Christmas. She hasn’t been reasonable so I’m just keeping to our normal schedule..as she wants to split S time up in various 9 and 12 hour shifts...nonsense. I won’t do that to my S. She can stick it for all I care.
Keeping s home today froms school as he yakked after 3 other students did. Don’t know if it was just a chain reaction but he’s puny enough to keep him rested. W tried to claim s was faking it and demand he go to school...I just said it’s my call and judgement to make while I have him, and left it at that. This communication was via text...but I can sense her “huffing” in her reply’s with not getting her way...once again she can stick it.
Today GAL activity is run on my treadmill in basement while son rests...then if he’s feeling ok do a ginger bread house.
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
