[AnotherStander]

Yep, I’m on his 3rd thread now. What you were writing to him back then sounded awfully similar to what I’ve heard from you here.

DB'ing today is pretty much the same as it was a year ago and 5 years ago There are some aspects that are particular to each person but the gist of it is the same for everyone.

I’m preparing for the long haul, but in the meantime going to focus on me and getting through the pain, grief and utter devastation. That’s priority #1 along with continuing to detach and move on. I understand I need to let her go and do whatever it is she has to do. If that means signing the D papers to get it started, I’ll oblige.

There you go, that's exactly the right attitude!

I don't know what to think about my sitch. It's stupid to even THINK this, but I almost wish my W would get mad at me for crap because that would mean she's actually interacting with me and concerned about what I'm doing. She really doesn't give me the time of day unless it's something of the utmost importance pretty much.

That is because you are so utterly starved for attention from her. You may have seen me say this before but often the LBS will first try to "nice" the WAS back, then when that doesn't work they'll try to "mean" them back (this is a particularly a problem with men that have NGS). They are just so desperate for attention that they don't even care if it's positive or negative as long as it's SOMETHING. I doubt I need to explain to you why this is a problem! Work on that GAL, and keep in mind that attention is what YOU want, and at this time everything needs to be about what SHE wants.

On the flip side, no communication does help me detach from an emotional standpoint and helps me with going dim as well I suppose.

Yes, that's what going dim/ dark is for is to help the LBS detach. It won't fix the M but it will help the LBS detach and that detachment is what may eventually bring the WAS back around.

Not gonna lie, the lack of any intimacy for me is starting to bother me.

Well don't be too anxious to cross that bridge. When I started getting intimate with other women it opened a whole new set of struggles. I had never had sexual issues in my life, but being intimate with someone else after 25 years just felt so strange and wrong. I don't know how WAS's can have affairs and not be eaten alive with guilt and remorse, I struggled with it even though my ex had already dumped me and moved out! It took months for me to get comfortable being with someone else. The sexual gratification part is easy, the emotional and psychological side is not.