AS, you are correct and I really needed to hear that. I have no trouble going dark and NC. I have no trouble not pursuing at first. But when I start to see her opening up, that’s where the issues begin.
The things she said to me this weekend really sting. It feels worse now then when she moved out. In particular she said “I’m done, I’m tired of this, and I don’t see the point in trying. I’m getting used to living on my own and the kids (my stepkids, not biological but I raised them) are also used to you not being in their lives anymore. It’s better this way for everyone. I don’t love you and I don’t feel attracted to you”. Do you all think these were said out of anger or is that the way she really feels?
I don’t know if she’ll come around again or if this time it really is different like she says. This weekend really hit me hard and opened my eyes up. I feel as though I now know exactly how I should have handled this and I know I screwed up.
