Ok so I am a bit confused here and I need help. So don't talk unless its about kids or finances, ok got it. She wants to talk kids tuition. Some say no don't talk she is manipulating you. Some say talk just don't let it effect your PMA. Well she hasn't paid her portion of the kids tuition in 3 months and she wants to talk about it.
I already chimed in on this but I will again- talk to her. If you've read my posts in other threads you'll notice I say frequently that when it comes to kids you can't go dark. You can go dim, but there's got to be some level of communication regarding the kids. You can't shut that down because it will just create a lot of anger and resentment, and it'll look like you're not pulling your weight or showing interest in the kids which to a WAS will just look like "more of the same" behavior. Now when I say "talk" to her I don't necessarily mean face-to-face. R2C's W was very confrontational so his approach of sending emails/texts so that everything was documented was a valid one. It's also a way of communicating without letting your emotions get in the way.
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So at that point in time I'm worried she isn't going to pay and try to rip the kids out of school mid year, because clearly her actions show she has the kids best interests at heart. So before we had the convo, how long do I just ignore the problem.
Definitely do not ignore problems, address them. Be cool, calm and collected. Handle problems like a business transaction. I deal with 1001 problems a day at work. When I was married I would get very emotional with W about problems, venting and such (not at her, but around her). After BD I was all business when it came to problem resolution. Just like I am at the office. That's the way to treat it.
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Should I literally just stop all contact with her?
You can't co-parent without some level of communication.
