Hoosjim's 16th. Looks like we're piecing, folks.

[burned]

This story reminds me of the fact that I maybe never had good enough boundaries with the women I worked with. My interactions with some of them, or maybe their interactions with me, could be construed as flirtatious. I never had any designs on any of them. But W worked with us for about 2 years and saw me interact with them. To me they’re like sisters, but W always felt jealous and I always said, relax, don’t worry about it. Strange that things started going south in our M right around the time she started actually being there to see me interact with them, no? And the first time I went on a weekend business trip with a few of them, W was super angry at me when I got back, even though I said, over and over, that none of that nonsense ever crossed my mind. But with the benefit of hindsight I can say with reasonable certainty that that weekend trip marks the beginning of the end of our M. May 2016. (I know I can’t trust anything she said after BD, but I remember on a couple of occasions, when I said I might leave and work somewhere else, she seemed mildly intrigued, fwiw.)

Ditch that scene. W can sense it, and that means there’s something, even if you don’t sense it in yourself. (Bo, if you’re reading this, you’re next on my list.) Either that or she is projecting her own stuff into you. Why did I trust my W and never cheat, while she was jealous and cheated, hmm? Projection! Anyway, no matter what, show her that you respect her and the MR more than you care about the watering hole. Plenty of other places to have a drink. Like, your bathtub, with W, bottle of wine, candles...

(Look at me, giving advice to my own mentor!)