I was just thinking, when I hear that some of these walk away spouses come back after some time, are they truly remorseful over things they did during their time away from their spouses or is it more that they are scared of being alone so they try to come back?

I heard that a lot of the time the LBS will move on find happiness elsewhere and that's when the walk away spouse "sees the light" and regrets their past decisions.

Honestly, I just don't believe anymore what I read from various places on how the walk-away-spouse barely remembers what they did or said during their fog. It seems like that would mean that it's some serious brain or mental issue that they miraculously overcame.

Right now, I'm waiting for my lawyer to get back to me because H's lawyer hasn't responded to my lawyer's request for a meeting between the four of us for financial settlement reasons. I did everything my lawyer requested so far and am up to speed on everything yet he's waiting on my H's lawyer to work on their end. It's ridiculous, he wanted out so badly yet I'm the one moving along and he and his lawyer are the ones who seem to be taking their sweet time.

Basically it's like, if H DID happen to come out of his "fog" he could possibly not remember much of this according to some sites on midlife whatevers. It all just makes no sense. I've had some medical issues happen recently so talking to H was the last thing on my mind really when he picks up our son or drops him off. I have a lot on my mind for the future and wish this guy would just basically "poo or get off the pot with his issues so we can all move on."

Together for 13 years, married for 8.
H is 46
I'm 40
S is 6
Bombdrop in April 2018
Still in limbo as of 2019