What a wonderful post, thank you for sharing Wolfie's wake up because so many of our friends here need to know that everyone "wakes" up as a result of many different things. Each of our once WASes, has to come to their own "moment" of realization in their own way and once they do...that's when the REAL healing begins for us and for them too.
I completely understand your ability to now lay some ghosts to rest as I have just about buried all of the dead issues of my H's As and MLC.
Like you and Wolfie, my H and I are on a completely different plane now, I've even noticed that my H writes himself little sticky notes to remind himself to thank me for doing little things. I saw one on his cell phone Sunday morning that said, "thank (T2) for doing all the laundry"....so he IS trying very hard to be a better man.
You said:
Quote: It is so freaking ironic that it took this horrid, god-awful experience to get to where we are today
and I couldn't agree more. As absolutely earth shattering as this nightmare was...it appears that since we have been fortunate enough to survive it...that for the first time in all our years together, NOW, we are finally really a married couple in heart, not just on paper. T2
