Whirlwind of Hurt 5

[Ready2Change]

My solution was email. I was tired of the lies and the manipulation. I set that boundary way early in my sitch. I do not regret it one bit.

Ok so I am a bit confused here and I need help. So don't talk unless its about kids or finances, ok got it.

I believe you have not made the required changes where in person or phone conversations will help your sitch. The only time you should talk, at the stage you are at, is emergencies with the children.

W calls. You let it go to voice mail. Listen to it. If kids are hurt etc, call her back immediately. If not, you are a busy man and will address the issue when you decide to.


If W says we need to talk , then you text her:

"W, I saw you called. I can't talk right now. If it is important, send me a text (or email) with the details and I will review it when I get a chance"

Well she hasn't paid her portion of the kids tuition in 3 months and she wants to talk about it.

If you cover it, keep all the records. You can get legal involved if later needed.

how long do I just ignore the problem. It's not like it's going to go away.

Don't ignore it. Address it without directly talking to her about it. Email is the place I start. If you cant agree, then a mediator. If that doesn't work, then the courts.