Whirlwind of Hurt 5

[Twofeet]

Wow TF you were doing great for a while but now it's you you you. You are hoping beyond hope that she is just going to kick that door down and say I'm sorry I really don't want a divorce. I bet she probably doesn't want to divorce but you make it impossible for her to actually process what she's doing. We tell you don't answer the damn phone and you have an excuse every time. Your IC is a genius because she knows exactly what your wife is thinking, oh wait she can't know that. You are plan B doesn't matter if your IC says so or not you make it possible for your wife to continue on knowing she has a great big safety net to fall into, hell you even told her that. TF you have to detach, reread DB and then read it again. You have to stop pursuing and when you answer that phone you are pursuing and she knows it. When she says I can't afford to pay for school all you had to do is say I'm sorry for that, gotta go. Good luck TF but so far that is all you got. Detach let her go that is the only way you possibly can get her back. It's hard I KNOW THAT IT'S HARD I've been there and I've got the T-shirt and I've got my wife still.

Ok so I am a bit confused here and I need help. So don't talk unless its about kids or finances, ok got it. She wants to talk kids tuition. Some say no don't talk she is manipulating you. Some say talk just don't let it effect your PMA. Well she hasn't paid her portion of the kids tuition in 3 months and she wants to talk about it. So at that point in time I'm worried she isn't going to pay and try to rip the kids out of school mid year, because clearly her actions show she has the kids best interests at heart. So before we had the convo, how long do I just ignore the problem. It's not like it's going to go away. Seriously, Again18 I feel like I am not getting something here.

Should I literally just stop all contact with her?

Also in another post you said I give too many quick responses. I didn't understand that comment, can you explain it further?

I bet she probably doesn't want to divorce but you make it impossible for her to actually process what she's doing.

I get wanting to give me the 2x4, but this is B.S. and you know it. You have sage advice and I respect you, but I feel like a line is being crossed here. Please don't do it again.