Whirlwind of Hurt 5

[Twofeet]

R2C,

Ours is 60/40 split her being 60. Down the road if I can make things happen on my end with my side biz we may someday be able to get to 50/50. For me financially I would love that. The convo wasn't urgent, and was pretty amicable with no arguments. I headed any potential arguments of at the pass. However, what I realized is that I should have just put it off. D isn't final yet, she is just relaying info and her fears, and trying to manipulate me. If things have to be battled out, it will be done down the road after D is final. I will stand up to her and force this as far as I legally can... when the time comes. Now is not that time. The plan was joint decisions, but she seems to be changing the plan or thinking about changing the plan as she goes. What about you and your XW? I thought you said something about how you stopped co-parenting.

I am really starting to understand my problem. I am too emotionally involved with her and it allows me to get played like a fiddle by W. It all happening to me like you all say, the details might be slightly different but the gist of it is there. The reality of it happening is almost hard to swallow. My problem is that I am not doing what I am repeating being told to do.

Let her go.


Two final notes; I do interact with women. Mostly through my work and industry related functions. Right now is a bit quiet due to the year. However, a group of customers who are all women had me come over to their place today to give me an early Christmas gift. When my W asks about advice on this bar or that restaurant I give her the info I get from my connections. W knows that the ones who are in the know on this stuff are almost always women. However, I should up my game and get more practice interacting the the opposite sex.

Lastly, I am going to bail early to go pick up the kids and go grocery shopping. We are going to get supplies to build a gingerbread house. Not my normal thing, but they have been begging me to do it. Should be fun.