LBS dealing with WW (part 6)

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Joe,

I am in the same exact sitch as you were a year ago. How did you handle Christmas? I have three kids with WW. WW is doing the same exact as yours was. Less the abusive stuff though. WW is cordial and nice when she is at home, but WW is dead set that its over and fully into an A. I refuse to move out and will not until D is final. WW has not filed. WW keeps saying she wants to file and actually retained an attorney but has not done anything.

WW keeps finding small things to get mad about to get negative attention. I get the "good morning" and "you look very nice" all the time now. I am NC as much as possible. I keep slipping up and responding to texts about negative stuff. That is something that i am working on.

I am GAL, lost weight, dieting, working out, being gone on the weekends, spending a ton of time with the kids. WW notices, but she doesnt really say anything. The difference is WW used to complain about a lot of stuff. I made mistakes in the past. I was an Ahole in the past, but I stopped years ago and made huge changes. WW had recognized them before. Now WW just has nothing but petty stuff to complain about.

Beyond my stupid responding to her texts I have done a great job of NC. But I am confused on Christmas. WW asked me to put money in our joint account which I did because I do want to help with the groceries and gifts for our kids. I am going to go get gifts for my kids this weekend. WW hasnt gotten much for them and she didnt ask me for help or ask for money on whatever she got the kids. Therefore I will get them stuff from myself.

When you gave the kids gifts did you just put them from dad? Or did you put from dad and mom?

I am in a world of heart break as well. EA since March, IHS since September 24th. Confirmed PA on October 31st.

I slipped quite a few times before I found this board and was in hot pursuit, kept getting drawn into arguments etc. I am doing much better now besides responding to texts which I will no longer do.